We are all aware that social media has had a remarkable impact on our lives. Social media has shown tremendous effects on our culture, in business, and in the way people communicate. There are several articles outweighing the pros and cons of social media in today’s society.
Specifically I am interested in people’s perceptions of social media and wedding planning. Founder of Modern Wedding Mom, Erica Laudon explains, how social media has helped today’s brides communicate and plan their weddings with ease. Blogger and recovering Pinterest addict Jillian Stafford has a different view on social media and wedding planning. Jillian explains how the perfect wedding pictures found on Pinterest gave her unrealistic standards for her wedding day.
I don’t think I could agree more with Jillian’s view on social media and wedding planning. As a bride to be I can honestly tell you I fell into the trap of the perfect cookie cutter depiction of the Pinterest wedding. I can also tell you that before I was even in a serious relationship I already had several Pinterest Boards organized with endless details of how my future wedding would look. Now this is where the humor kicks in. My wedding date is 4 months away. Although I have the big decisions out of the way, I can tell you with the straightest anxiety filled face that I have not picked out or purchased one decoration for my wedding. I can also tell you with an even straighter face that I blame social media for my delay.
While Pinterest, Facebook, and Instagram all believe they are being helpful with their gorgeous advertisements for signs, cakes, and flowers they are actually doing the opposite. My Pinterest board is overflowing, and my Bookmarks tab needs a vacation. I have so many ideas saved, bookmarked, and pinned that I honestly do not know where to start. I am overwhelmed by the unrealistic perfection of these social media weddings, but still can’t face reality. The even bigger problem with these unrealistic standards arise when someone such as my mother or my fiancé try to bring me back to reality. “What do you mean real flowers in my hair will wilt after an hour in the July sun? What do you mean $2,000 is too much money for a 3-hour trolley ride?” I found myself defending these posts and pictures at the expense of arguing with people I actually cared about, and for what? Since when did a wedding turn into a competition rather than a day of love? I don’t need a trolley ride or flowers in my hair to make my wedding day special. I need a groom and family that love and support me.
This is my advice to everyone out there planning your social media worthy wedding. Don’t let the thousands of beautiful social media wedding pictures and posts distract you from the meaning of marriage. Don’t let social media overwhelm you into the unrealistic and unnecessary competition of the perfect wedding. Remember the people who will make this day special, because at the end of the day you will pack up the décor, throw away the leftovers, and hide away the pictures, but you will never forget the people who truly made your day unforgettable.